Fear of the Unknown..

Sangat2 terkejut tau bila tau yang PI and Tahnani nak kahwin hujung bulan nih. Bile diorang bermain chinta ni?? Tibe2 dapat invitation.

Mengikut ajaran Islam, memang takde konsep couple. dan dating juga tidak dibenarkan walaupun di tempat orang ramai. Dalam novel Ayat-ayat Cinta pun, Fahri terus kahwin dengan Aisha..

Seseorang yang saya kenal berkenalan dengan seorang wanita (sekarang dah jadi isteri) di dunia cyber. Terpikat setelah lama mengikuti blog wanita tersebut. Contact2 sikit2, dan si lelaki terus menghantar rombongan meminang. Lelaki ni Islamic amat lah. Mereka jarang bertemu apetah lagi dating2 ni. Babak percintaan hanya berlaku bile lafaz akad dan nikah selesai. Jadi sekarang mereka seperti pasangan baru bercinta cuba mengenal hati budi masing2 dan semuanya sangat indah. Macam best jer...

Zaman mak2 kita dulu, memang kebanyakannye bercinta selepas berkahwin. Merisik itu benda yang paling penting, merisik dah ade yang punye, merisik budi pekerti, merisik keluarga ade penyakit keturunan dan merisik lain-lain. Dan selepas tu hantar rombongan merisik secara formal dan tiba masa perempuan pula nak merisik keluarga lelaki yang datang merisik.

Adakah sebab bercinta selepas kahwin yang membuat mereka kekal lama berkahwin? Mungkin DAN berserta dengan faktor2 lain. Zaman sekarang dan zaman dulu mana sama kan.

Zaman sekarang, bercinta bagai nak rak sampai bertahun2, jumpe 1 lelaki baru, tibe2 kawin selepas 3 bulan berkenalan. Ayat orang biasa, Dah namanya jodoh..
3 months and you suddenly decided to spend the rest of your life with him/her without having the extra longer time to risik? Tak takut ker?


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During the 1st year, Mr.Joe and I had the best time of all. Able to see him only a couple of hours each month therefore every minute was spent with love. Then, DPA came. More time were spent together, the more we saw each other, the more we realised each other's flaws and amazingly, the more we fought. There were a few times when I felt that we were not suitable for each other but I had to at least give it a try to make it successful. And I think we did pass the getting-to-know-the-real-you stage and now we are adjusting ourselves with the new environment avoiding the dislikes of both parties. We hope and pray for the best of us..


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As the marriage thing getting nearer each day, I've been getting a lot of:
Lepas kawin nanti nampak la perangai sebenar
Sebelum kahwin taik gigi pun rasa coklat
sebelum kawin boleh gosok baju sendiri, lepas kawin, seterika kat mana pun tak tahu
Tahun pertama kahwin, dapat la hadiah birthday and anniversary, lepas kawin, jangankan nak dapat hadiah, ingat pun tidak,
Masa bercinta janji nak buat kerja rumah sama2, lepas kahwin, kita penat buat kerja, suami tahu nak itu je bila malam menjelma.

Horror..

Korang ni tak nak bagi aku kahwin ke?

Tak, we all nak you bersedia yang marriage is not just about having fun. Most guys will change after marriage and the wife changes too because the husband is no longer the man she dated.


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"20 things you should know about guys" stated in this magazine. one of it:
1. Romantic guys do not exist. Dont expect that your guy will surprise you with home-cooked-candle-light dinner for your anniversaries or birthdays. It only happens in Korean Drama and Hollywood Movies.

Guy to his gurl: See, most guys are like that. Why do u expect me to be different from our lot?

"20 things you should know about women"
1. Women like shopping. They can spend hours or the whole day at the shopping mall without having a slightest thought of you.

Gurl saying to the her guy: See, most women like shopping. Why cant you accept that this is our nature?

And the fight goes on and on and on defending the features of each gender refusing to change or be slightly different from the normal description instead of trying to adapt to the new environment... Haih..