Loss

My colleague's husband passed away on the 11th morning; the day I went for PTK. The colleague came back to work on the 18th.

Her work-station is exactly in front of my room. So, many came to her place asking about how it happened etc and she, willingly or not kept on telling and repeating the same ol' story. Which for me, it may be agonizing for her to repeat them again and again about how her husband passed away. Have you not learned the word sensitivity, people? And if it were to happened to you, would you want to keep on telling people how your husband died merely a week after he is gone? Sedih tak hilang lagi kan..

Ma once told me, it is makruh to say takziah to the waris si mati after 3 days and here's what I found after doing all the research in the net and in the book:

Menurut para ulama, sunat mengucapkan takziah itu dalam lingkungan tiga hari, sebab menurut kebiasaannya kesusahan itu tidak lebih dari tiga hari. Maka makruh hukumnya jika ucapan takziah itu dilakukan lebih daripada tiga hari, kerana ditakuti selepas tiga hari itu akan memperbaharui kesedihan seseorang itu. Dalam hal ini Rasulullah Shallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam menjadikan puncak daripada kesusahan selama tiga hari, sebagaimana sabda Baginda:

Maksudnya: “Bagi wanita yang beriman kepada Allah dan hari akhirat tidak diharuskan berkabung atas si mati lebih daripada tiga hari, kecuali atas suaminya iaitu selama empat bulan sepuluh hari”.

(Hadis riwayat Al-Bukhari)

Action speaks louder than words which I think presenting yourself in front of her holding her hand or giving a hug may indirectly express "I'm sorry for your loss" or "I'll be here when you need me"; without having to say a word, don't you think?

Al-Fatihah..